7 Face-to-Face Blunders

By Suzanne Vera

Online. We love being online. There are no set times, we come and go as we please and engage in conversations, find great articles to read and wonder what life was like before the internet. For some of us we hear stories of what life was like before TV and laugh. Our kids will laugh when we tell them that there was no cable, internet, iTunes, DVR and texting! I remember when cable was launched, VCR's, push button telephones, 8-tracks and vinyl albums.

Prior to the internet, the main source of communication was the telephone and the good ole face-to-face meetings. That was how business was done and how we built relationships. As a marketer there has to be a balance between social media marketing and face-to-face meetings.

For some it has been a while, for others we are wall flowers when we are not in our "element". So as you go and get back out there or continue to be out there, here are some blunders to avoid.

1. Business Card Shove. Please do not have your business card ready to hand out before you even say hello. Let them ask for it. I think of it this way - do I want this person to have my contact information before I even know their name? Do I want to be on their creepy email list so they can increase their numbers?

2. What you do in more than 10 words. So you meet someone and they say, So what do you do? If you have a "elevator speech" you go into that and you lost them. If you hesitate for a second you seem unsure and you lost them. My rule is 10 words or less. Why? Those 10 words tell the story if they are going to ask questions to allow you to embellish or if they see no value in talking further.

Ex: We make people look good and get them noticed.
Ambiguous - very but conversation opener.

Keep it simple and avoid: expert, guru, the man - the biggest names in social media are the simplest on what they do. One of the biggest, calls himself a typist. A typist? Really? Yes.

That begs people to say "how" or maybe think you are obnoxious. Keep in mind the delivery of your 10 words or less is part of the reaction. Exude confidence. 10 words or less easier to remember than the elevator speech.

3. Dominating the Conversation. Breathe! Let them do the talking so you can hear what they do and are about and how they fit into your life.

4. Playing with your Phone. Screams uninterested when really you just might be shy. It can be hard to walk into a room where it feels like everyone knows someone and you do not. Relax. Be confident.

5. Not Meeting Someone New. If you are attending a lot of events and you see the same people, go and find someone who you do not know and bring them with you.

6. Blank Stare. What says leave me alone more than the blank stare? Yes, some people are not ones that we wish to engage in conversation with - it happens, sometimes a lot but it is sending off a bad message.

7. One Foot In. You see someone you would rather be talking to and you have the one foot moving towards the other person and the lean. The person who is talking sees it, feels it and knows it. You are not listening to them. Take a minute to listen and then when the conversation ends, go to who you know.

Many of these "blunders" are body language which is another can of worms but as an overview avoiding these blunders will go a long way. Part of being a marketer is becoming a better one and the only way is to be out there. Show people what you got and why they should trust you and work with you.

What blunders have you noticed? What makes you a better marketer? How can we all be better marketers? What are your 10 words or less?

Off The Market: Attorney Phaedra Parks Ties The Knot
Posted by ATLien - November 4th, 2009 Published in "A" Town FavoritesTags: Atlanta, Dwight Eubanks, Phaedra Parks, Weddings

Super entertainment attorney and my personal hero Phaedra Parks got married last weekend in a private ceremony in Buckhead. Pictured above from right to left is Dwight Eubanks from The Real Housewives of Atlanta who served as Wedding planner/Director, the beautiful bride Phaedra Parks, Me (ATLien of StraightFromTheA.com), Tracey Baker-Simmon (TV producer-Welcome to Dreamland, Being Bobby Brown), and Ted Lucas (music mogul CEO and founder of Slip N’ Slide Records-Plies, Rick Ross, Trina & Trick Daddy).
Phaedra is very established and well-known in the industry and you may also recognize her from her many appearances on BET’s Tiny & Toya show, where she is executive producer. The wedding party consisted of Phaedra’s best friends Kysha Cameron (V-103’s Ryan Cameron’s wife) and video vixen/exotic dancer Whyte Chocolate were the matron and maid of honor. Grammy winning producer songwriter Manuel Seal (Usher, Mariah Carey, Mary J Blige, TLC) and DJ Nabs provided the musical entertainment.
There were also judges from every court in the state of Georgia including Lt. Gov Mark Taylor, Supreme Ct Justices Robert Benham, Carol Hunstein and Court of Appeals Judge Anne Barnes. I also spotted Mz. Shynecka and model/actress Veronica Best. My personal highlight of the day, Mrs. Shaw, who noticed I was single and spoke highly of her 43 year old son. I was intrigued and ready to go on a blind date until she dropped the bomb that her son is rapper Too $hort! That’s a story for another day but needless to say, I politely declined.
It was a beautiful sunny day in Atlanta for a wedding and Phaedra looked AMAZING! The ceremony was dedicated to late music mogul and best friend of bride, Shakir Stewart.
Yeah fellas….if you snooze, you LOOSE! Yet another ATLien off the market. Congratulations Phaedra!